This is only applicable to those people who have been in a relationship.
This theory of mine started when I was still in high school. My sisters ( I have 5 sisters) used to tease me because I do not have any girl friend. They say that I am super Torpe ( when I am in front of a girl that I really, really like from the start, I cannot talk and think rationally. My friends call this the realm of irrationality. This is the realm wherein you cannot think of any topic or idea to open for discussion. This is also the stage where you think that girls will just laugh at you. (hello!!!!, those kind of girls or guys are rare, and you don't deserve them... Throw them away. So, what is this theory? My theory states that when you really, really like someone, you are unable to think rationally until you have overcome the fear you feel, which is the fear of rejection or losing that person. (I wrote this article 3-4 years ago so during those years I encounter a lot of things. Actually it was this year that I finally got an answer from my theory. The answer came from the book of Neil Strauss. The book is called the game and I forgot the exact line that he said regarding this topic. In a nut shell, he said that if a person really like someone he or she should be willing to take the risk of losing the person in order for him or her to gain that person.)
Many guys are able to talk smoothly with girls, and that is what the girls want! The reason behind it: those guys do not like you that much. Why? They are able to do that because they are not afraid to lose you. They are only risking something that is not that important to them. Imagine this, do you think if their life is on the line they would be able to do something very smooth. Of course not! They will be very afraid. Guys who startle when talking to a girl implies that he really like her. He is so afraid to lose her that he tends to startle and thinks irrationally.
Criteria: (if you really like the person)
1) Even if you see someone better (physically and financially), you still think that your partner is better for some weird reason. (This reason is something that you may or may not be able to explain.
2) You are content with him/her. You do not look for some FLING. You are happy with him/her alone. Why would you look for somebody else if you really love him/her. (If you are still looking for somebody, then you just love the person partially; you cannot say completely because you are still looking for something...
